[blessed with 2]

I think it is important to look at the question through the eyes of the one asking. If a child is asking when you are going to have kids, they might just think all grown ups are moms and dads and are excited to have more kids to play with. When we decided to adopt, we followed the advice of "tell everyone, you never know where the baby will come from" Since I do home daycare, the kids asked why we were adopting instead of having another baby. I simply responded the same way we explained it to our then 3 year old. "Another baby can't grow in my tummy, so we are going to adopt a baby who needs a mommy and daddy" I sometimes explained that sometimes a lady has a baby grow in her tummy and can't be a mommy yet. That seemed to satisfy the kids, it was honest, and didn't infringe on my privacy too much. (Not like the adults who ask which one of us has the fertiliy problem!) It sounds like you had some real trauma in your past, and you are right, your neices do not need to hear about it at all right now. You know the real context of these comments, so if there is more going on then these simple answers can deal with, I would discuss it with the parents.