[HappyMomAnna]

First of all--a child the age of 4-would not ask such a thing unless the parents had talked about it! I would talk the parents and tell them that they need to stop discussing your biz in front of their child. Most 4 year olds don't put these ideas together on their own.....
With the ten-year old I can understand the questions and might ask her when she plans to be a mom? Ten year old girls are often starting to think about it--and interested. But, taunting is something she has learned from her parents. I would tell the parents that discussing your motherhood is something they need to do when their children are asleep and will not overhear their JUDGEMENTS.

I would also tell the parents they need to be very careful not to HARM their daughters--infertility can happen to any girl and how will they feel if one of their daughters ends up suffering infertility after being raised to be so flip about it? These parents need to take a moment to talk with the ten year old about the issues of unwanted babies--and about the fact that some women have difficulties but you NEVER know what will happen to you----until you are married! It could be a more constructive way for them to educate their daughters.

Either way---don't let these problems harm the relationship with the girls--it is the parents who have a problem and you are going to want these little girls to be your babysitter sometime down the road when you do have your child and need a Friday night off!

Second--If you are at all a religious family the best answer I have found is to simply say--We will have a baby when God decides. If you are not religious maybe--'We will have a child when the time is right."