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Originally Posted By Jean

We adopted both of our daughters at the age of 3 1/2 which leaves a very large gap in talking to them about their birth or baby days. We have no baby pictures in fact no pictures at all from more than 6 months before we got them. Right now they are 3 1/2 and 6 but I know in the future they are going to want more inforation about when they were born, when they were babies etc. Both of them of course know they were adopted but that won't prevent them from wanting to know these things. I dread the school assignments that are sure to come where the kids bring in family trees and baby pictures because they are going to feel different. Already in my 6 year old's kindergarten class they had to bring in a picture of "when I was little" I spoke to the teacher about it and she said that every year some of the students bring a toddler picture and not a baby picture so we got by on this one by using a picture of her when she was three and she didn't feel "different".

Are there any suggestions about working on these issues. Even in trying to find appropriate books about adoption, most of them talk about getting the child as a baby and do not address the older adoption stories.

Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer.