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Originally posted by AMom2Two
I was very surprised when the social worker told me that we have a 50/50 chance of having a completely open adoption.
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50/50? Wow! That does seem unrealistic given the posts in this forum. I could not imagine wanting a closed adoption. I'm not judging anyone, it is just beyond my ability to imagine. I just would have thought it would be more 90/10 than 50/50. I also cannot believe that you would be "booted out of the agency" for declining to be matched with a bmom who prefers a closed adoption. That makes no sense to me. More research should be done on that subject as well. Its very hard on everyone when one wants open adoption and the other doesn't. It seems you are in between a rock and a hard place because of course you open adoption for your second child since your first one has that. It seems it would be extra difficult for your second child to see the first child enjoying that priviledge. On the other hand, if you refuse a closed adoption, you have to start all over with a new agency and the wait for a second child. I do hope it works out that they match you with a bmom who wants open adoption. I also wish that the agencies would make counseling more available to bmoms so that they can be well informed of all of their options.