Foster to adopt has this side to the sotry--letting babies go back and I have heard of some people letting 10-15-20 children return before a one sticks for adoption.....
There should also be a straight adoption program in your state. I know in some states you can continue to Foster while waiting for an Adoption Placement. With straight adoption you wait for the match and once a child is placed it is very unusual for the child to be removed.....
We chose straight adoption knowing that the chances of an infant were lower and knowing that no matter what issues we faced we would have to deal with them........ To be honest I did not miss the first year of diapers and all night feeding with our son.............he was placed with us three-days before he turned one! And one less year of diapers really does not bug me!
Anyway---we knew we would not be able to let ONE child go after we loved them for even a day!
We knew we would be poor foster parents because the GOAL of Foster Care is REUNIFICATION not adoption.