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nickychaz,
I think your son will pick up from you what he will feel about the outcome. If you are crushed he will feel crushed, etc. My paternal grandmother had divorced my grandfather when my dad was little, and I only saw her three times - when I was a toddler, when I was 11 and when I was 21. It never occurred to me to feel dismal about it, because my Dad was never sad about it, it was just the way life was and that was OK.
If you are honest about your feelings with your son, but model behavior that you would like him to learn, then even a heartbreak can result in good. Perhaps if you handle sorrow strongly, then when he has his own sorrows in the future (like girlfriend's breaking up with him), he will be more likely to handle his heartbreak like he saw you handle yours. (One of the guys I worked with killed himself because his girlfriend broke up with him, so I'm rather sensitized to that issue.)
I'm not sure it exists, but I think I've seen advertisements about 'Adopt a Grandparent'. Perhaps that would be satisfying for you and your son. There must be lots of lonely old people whose kids moved far away. You could feel good about providing your son with a substitute grandparent, and they would feel very happy to have someone who cares.
And if you can't find a program like that, I'm sure there are volunteer programs to go to the grocery store for old people. I used to do that when I was younger, I took two old ladies to the grocery store every weekend. It was sort of a big burden to have, but they were very nice and had lots of interesting stories about the 'old days'.
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