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I agree with Brandy that if the child is being endangered, it should be reported and steps taken to prevent it from happening again. That should be the primary concern. It sounds like you do care about your future step-son (I'm assuming you are engaged to his father) but there is so much to consider here. She may be beating him daily, but that doesn't necessarily mean that the child is going to want to terminate his relationship with her and let you take over. A mother/child bond is very strong, even when neglect and abuse is involved. I have a "special" son whom I got through marriage. I got him when he was 10 and his mother is really a piece of work, to put it nicely. He's in college now, I'm divorced from his father, but I'm still Mom. He comes to visit on holidays and calls me often. He has little to do with his biological Mom. But he still loves her. He understands what kind of person she is, he doesn't want much to do with her, but she is still the woman who gave birth to him, and even after all this time and the lack of contact (He hasn't spoken to her in over two years), he still isn't ready to completely cut her out of his life. I am sure that he still holds out some hope that someday she will change. My point is, as much as you love your stepson, you have to consider his feelings, needs and wants. Take it slow. But do not hesitate getting him out of a dangerous situation. Also, as you said, knowing something and proving it are two different things. If you suspect neglect or abuse, report it to social services and let them investigate.
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