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You have received a lot of advice on this, but I have to add mine. I was 16 when my son was born and that was nearly 16 years ago. My parents made all the decisions for me and that has made my healing and my grieving so difficult. I was willing to make the sacrifices necessary to raise my son myself, but that was never going to happen. I do understand that my parents were doing what they thought was best for me, but they just couldn't know. My advice to all parents of a pregnant mother2be is to educate her on her options, show her you love her even though she has disappointed you and support her decisions. Of course you can guide her and let her know what you think would be best, but I STRONGLY believe that all decisions must ultimately be hers. Help her make a well informed, educated decision, and then support her on that decision. Because she is 15, you will need to help her research her options and get counseling for her. I have just a little bit more advice: after the baby is born, whether your daughter choses to keep the baby or place it for adoption, please help her with counseling, birthcontrol, etc. Birthmoms do not place their children for adoption and then forget it ever happened. It would be naive to think that is possible. We bond with that child during the time we carry him and it is one of the most painful and difficult times in our lives. Birthmoms and moms2be need love and support both during and after the adoption. This post comes straight from the heart and is one that I am passionate about. I firmly believe that the ultimate decisions must be the birthmothers to make.
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