[Dawnzlight]

Success....


I have learned to change how I measure success. Ok, maybe I havent totally learned.. let me rephrase: I am learning!

Yesterday, he woke up on NY's day, and left the house after taking 'his' money from my pocketbook, no note, nothing. But came back in 2 hours later, with a birthday gift for me, and apologized for going in my purse w/out asking first, but he wanted to get a gift for me.

Why is that a success? He actually bought me a present. First time on his own. How he went about it was not in the manner that I truly appreciated...but.........


Love... I can so relate to what you shared dad... I can still remember the first day I met our son... his brilliant smile... lost my heart that moment to him..

Thats why we do it, love. And once there are heart commitments, it truly is hard to make these decisions. Having the other brother with you guys, means there will always be a connection...and possibly a continual reminder of what he will see as a rejection, even tho that is HARDLY the case.

Every time we took our son to visit one of his sisters, we had to deal with that fact, that she was with them, he wasnt.

It just feels like my family has just been part of the big bandaide put on his life, and the bandaid keeps falling off... reopening the wound underneath... ya know?

I would like to hear of others that adopted angry older children and how they faired....

Thank you to the other lady that posted and shared her similar story with her daughter :::::::hugs:::::::::

Dawn