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You are wise to see that your 18 year old needs to be held accountabe, however, you keep rescuing him. I realize you do this out of love, but that allows him to make the problem yours and not his.
My suggestion would be to set guidelines like you have, but stick to them. If he verbally assualts you when you offer him a ride, refuse to drive him again unless he asks you politely for a ride. If he loses his job, that's a natural life consequence for him.
If he's given a time limit and the tools necessary to complete his GED and chooses not to, that becomes his problem-provided you're willing to let him deal with the consequence of having no place to live. Or, you could charge him rent if he fails to finish by a certain date.
If he doesn't get his driver's permit or liscence in the specified time-he no longer gets free transportation. He gets his own or pays you.
If he can't be civil to you, he can stay in his own room or you could ask him to leave-whichever makes you more comfortable.
Put all of it in writing the way you want it and have him sign a copy. Then stick to it.
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