[HarrysGirl]

My daughter has many of the same issues. She is currently 21 and out of our home. I am thrilled. It is the first peace my family has seen in 18 years.

The lying, stealing, not taking responsibility for her actions, not learning from consequences, bad attitude, did I say stealing? all drove me nuts. Living with her was hell. Therapy did not really do any good, nor did meds. You know that joke how can you tell when a lawyer is lying? "their lips were moving" I felt that way about my daughter, she was always lying. As you said the truth about something could be right in front of her and she would argue about it. The interesting thing is I don't think she knew it or could change. I believe her perception of things was skewed.
In her case it was Fetal Alcohol that caused her brain to suffer damage prenatally.

She looks and sound "normal" on the outside so other people could not understand my attitude. They did not know she was always lying. She lied to teachers, friends, therapists, everyone.
We had rages and meltdown in our house that scared me. She had thoughts about killing me also. I feared getting a heart attack from her also. Gotta go for now.

Wishing you luck, knowing it will not get easier as long as he lives with you.