[Dawnzlight]

I forgot to address the question about 'triggers'

My son knows that stress, feeling backed into a corner about anything-real or imagined, frustration can trigger him into a spiralling rage.

His biggest trigger seems to be: ME

I can say anything, even a compliment can turn into a battle.

Yet my husband can walk in the room, say the same thing, and it is received as it was intended.

It is like my son has this filter that scrambles anything that comes from me, or represents me, etc.

He then goes into these areas:

Exxageration: (he said to me before he got out of the car to go to work, 'If YOU hadnt tried to run me over this morning!") Um.. er.. HE was the one that ran out in front of my car from the bushes!

Mind reading or jumping to conclusions: "YOU SAID I had to move out." Um..... no, I said you have 6 months to get your GED, drivers permit, steady job or military....

Lack of accountability, not accepting responsibilities/discounting/blaming: "I was fired because of miscomunication".. no you were fired because you refused to do assigned tasks and called a co worker a *****.

His major hot button is simply being annoyed. He has had anger counseling, so much so, he knows just what to say at those meetings, sessions, but never implements things, or does it when it is convenient for him.


My hot buttons as a parent:

I hate disrespectful tones of voices, I hate being ignored, I hate being cussed at, and I hate ingrattitude-you owe it to me kind of attitude.

My husband is aware of what occured this morning, and we are going to sit down and discuss this tonite, but I will be honest with you, I wouldnt be surprised if my son does something to sidetrack the whole thing. Some drama will occur undoubtedly.

Dawn