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Originally posted by amom4life
The only thing I can say about having bio children is that barring any major problem IMO it is much easier than adoption but it doesn't change the outcome.
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This is why I have a bio-son.
When I met my husband, we originally planned on having two birth children and then adopting at least two children. I worked with children professionally and knew that it was pretty darn easy to fall passionately in love with a child who is not related to you by blood!
Anyway, after our son turned three, we began trying for another and found out that having another bio child wasn't an option. We went through four rounds of clomid and when presented with the next step (injectables), we decided that adoption looked a lot easier and so we decided to adopt.
I think that comparing adoption to creating biological children is definitely apples to oranges. Neither is better, neither is worse and they're both great ways to raise a family. But some people have a favorite taste for apples and some have a favorite taste for oranges. And then there are some people who only want a nice familiar apple and think that oranges are just way too much trouble what with all that peeling and everything. (Could I carry this awkward metaphor any further??? I better quit now!!!)
I guess what I'm saying is that no, I don't see any reason for anyone to have a bio kid unless s/he is led to have one and his/her body can make one. What some people don't seem to understand is that while have a bio child is its own unique thing with its own unique advantages, I'm finding that adoption is also its own unique thing with its own unique advantages. I feel so lucky to get to adopt and I've actually come to the point where I'm grateful that my infertility stepped in and reminded me of my plans to adopt.
I feel very fortunate to get to build my family both ways because I am greedy for new experiences!
Dawn
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