Hi Kazmum. I know many people, some directly related to me, who cannot and will not love a child that is not of their own blood. I am asked so often..."How can you love a child that is not of your blood?" Though i respect their honesty and am **** glad they don't choose to foster or adopt, I just can't fathom that way of thinking. I will never understand it nor do I waste time trying to. We have two beautiful bio. sons, ages 15 and 9 who are my life. We have also adopted our 3yo foster daughter who is my life. i can speak for my husband also on both accounts. Yes, the birthing experience was awesome and surreal. And when my little M was placed in my arms at 6 weeks of age as only my foster daughter, the feeling was awesome and surreal. There was not a whole lot of difference in the elation of each experience. This Monday we will be taking in a little 20 month old girl, who we provided respite care for last month, as our foster child. I am going through the same domestic feelings and actions I did with my other 3 children...cleaning.....introspective...cleaning.. ...overjoyed....cleaning.....setting up nursery...cleaning....spending too much money...get my drift !! I applaud you and your husband for the choices you have made based on the well being of children. If you were to conceive also...how awesome that would be. We are Catholic so the conception part was left for a more All-knowing One. I was not a happy pregnant person...sick, big, tired, and a drag to be around. But once those boys were placed in my arms, I quickly forgot all the misery though my husband did not!! Where am I going with all of this...? I believe adoption CAN BE and IS as fulfilling as birthing. If I were Einstein , Mozart or Van Gogh...I guess i would feel compelled to birth my children...but obviuosly I'm not and I'm not a vain person so another's blood is as red and as loveable as my own and my husband's and actually even moreso !! I pray your child(ren) will get home to you soon the way they are meant to get home to you. God Bless.
