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Older children are more difficult to parent. To create a family this way, is to create a unique family, that does not really compare to traditional families. These children require a lot (time, patience, money). If you know this going in, you have a better chance of making it work. If you have no other children, or no children to close in age, I think that also makes parenting older children easier. If the match is good, I do think being a parent to an older special needs child, can be rewarding. Take a lot of classes, ask a lot of questions. Know and stick to your limits. It is better to say no in the beginning, when hearing about a possible match, then later disrupting. I was told repeatedly in my classes, Love is not enough. If you think it is you will be dissapointed. Think ahead of the worst case scenario, and ask yourself if you could handle it.Of course I am not 2 years in yet, I am only 1 year in. I know, the teen years will not be easy for me, (she is 9). But there are no gaurantees in life.
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