What do all of you consider a 'success'? I'm beginning to wonder if there are ANY older children for whom you can adopt, and then become a family. I haven't heard much good news in the last ten months, what I have heard is people thrilled to adopt who later come back and state their new children are more than they can handle (and they have every right to say so considering the behaviors, this isn't judgement just observation) and they are disrupting.
Does anybody have a story about an older child adoption, let's say over the age of 5, where two years later they are still happy they adopted and the child is healing?
What are some factors that make for a 'successful' older child adoption?
Maybe we should just give up on our idea of growing our family this way and stick with 'part time' such as exchange students, fresh air fund kids, Children of Chernobyl, etc...
What do all of you experienced parents think?