Thanks for your interest. Nothing yet on placement for us. I took everyone's advice and did some calling and e-mailing. I got a fairly good dialogue going with the child's social worker and therefore know that her decision will be made sometime after the holidays. I also know that although we may be in the running, so to speak, the worker thinks we may be a little too far from where she would like to place the child. Ultimately, she will place the child with the right match, but the closer to her current home, the better. So our ups and downs on this side are pretty intense.
It has been two months since we initially expressed interest and the waiting gets worse everyday! While waiting, we got a room completely finished for whoever our child will be and did a lot of reading on issues relating to older special needs adoption. We have good days and bad as far as thinking we will clearly be the best match for this child or don't have a good enough home study to compete.
If I could change one thing about this process, I would make it more difficult to adopt. I guess that sounds strange, but by that I mean I wish someone would visit our home again, call us with questions or test us on attachment issues. I feel like our homestudy isn't enough to really show our potential at being really great parents. I wish the social workers had more time to really look into us, because we are fabulous! Allow me to brag by saying we are so much better in person than on paper
. Or maybe what I am saying is it is difficult to relinquish so much control to someone else for something as important as what child should or should not join our family. I wish we had more say at this stage than what we have on paper.
How about you? Why are you looking into MA and how far are you into the adoptive process?