[Dreamsofachild]

I was 16 in 1981 when my birthson was born and I was 38 in 2003 when my adopted son was born.

My birthsons adoption was closed (by a-parents) and I had no contact with him until he was 19 years old, but I did hold and care for him for 3 days before his parents took him home. I don't have any regrets except that his open adoption was closed before it the ink was dry. I know I made the right decision and would do the same again at that age.

Now I am 38 and have a beautiful adopted son and we have an open adoption with his Birthmom. I can't say that it's been easy having an open adoption, it's hard work for both the birth and adoptive parents. But we believe that open is best for our child and his Birthmother, neither will ever have to wonder or worry.

We were at the hospital, but not in delivery with her, We went to all her last 3 months of pre natal visits with her (all her choice), We talk on the phone, E Mail and have visit's in our home.

But until your daughter signs away her parental rights, that is her baby and she is that babies mother and your daughter and only your daughter should decide who, what, when, where and how long.