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thank you all so much for the information you have given me. i have also done extensive research on things that i could face, but the information you have all given me really helps a lot.
the older girl, adhd, loves to snuggle and cuddle, and i give her as much as she wants. the younger likes it when i initiate a hug or cuddling or tickling, but she has been hesitant to initiate it. i believe she will be the hardest with attachment issues.
i don't think these girls got much attention in the adoptive home from things they have told me. there were 9 adopted kids in the home. the younger girl told me that their adoptive mom used to give the older girl increased dosages of ritalin to get her out of the adoptive mom's hair. but, the older girl wouldn't take it and would throw it out, knowing she wasn't supposed to have it. she is always asking me if she is too hyper. i have grandkids 1,2 and 3, so what is too hyper? she thinks my 3 yr. old grandson is more hyper than she is. and she could be right. it is just so hard trying to identify and deal with issues when you only have weekend visits. hopefully the wait for them to move won't be too much longer.
since they both have expressed an interest in crafts, i am stocking up on different activities for them, so we can all do them together. i also build dollhouses, and when i am confident that they are willing to listen and learn from directions, we will get the one i am working on out again and do together. they were great this weekend herding the alpacas into the catch pen and worming them. they even did one by themselves. one step at a time and one day at a time . . .
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