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the girls show numerous "young" behaviors, i.e. building forts out of blankets, playing in the bathtub with toys, etc. i allow whatever they want to do. the youngest tries so hard to be older, but just can't quite seem to manage it. she likes doing the activity, but has no interest in really learning about what she is doing, i.e. learning to spin alpaca fleece. she loves spinning it, but won't take the time to concentrate to do it right. i decided to start her on crocheting instead.
the older is adhd and on medication. she hardly sleeps at all. this weekend she just couldn't sleep, so climbed into bed with me and was instantly asleep and slept well all night. the next night she stayed in her room. last weekend she forgot her meds at the fh, but i really could not tell the difference in her behavior with or without the meds. maybe she was just trying harder for the weekend.
they are both seeing therapists at this time and have been for at least a year, but the foster home they are in now will not allow any type of "child" behavior, so i'm sure that is why i see more of it on their weekend visits. hopefully my fc license will come through soon so i can have them full time while the adoption process continues.
it's been reported to me that the older girl shows a lot of anger. i have seen her display this behavior with the driver who brings her to visits and her present fm that doesn't like her. she does not show these behaviors to me, but then i am sure we are "honeymooning". when i do notice the behavior with others, i talk to her about it and the need to have some control over this behavior. she listens and acknowledges, but just doesn't like being treated like a baby - although her actions in my home show she needs and wants some of this "babying". when the girls are placed with me, i will be able to participate in some of their counseling sessions with a therapist that comes to my office once a week and is very good with children.
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