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I think KristieMaureen came as close to saying how I feel as anyone. No one has to be "grateful" for being born, etc., although I am grateful to my mother for giving me life and I am not adopted. Life is a really neat gift if you use it right. There is one reason for having a baby, keeping a baby or placing a baby for adoption, and that is love. There are birthmothers who placed their baby for adoption to conceal their immorality, their are adoptive parents who do not care for their adopted child very well and there are many other bad circumstances that occur. But I do believe that the majority of birthmothers and adoptive parents love their children. I am a birthmother and an adoptive mother. I did not have a choice as a birthmother, my parents made that choice for me. My adopted son's mother had a choice, and she had other priorities. There are so many different circumstances and events that affect our decisions. I wish that all birthmothers, adopted children and adoptive parents would talk to eachother before reaching their decisions about eachother. My son may hate me right now, and I would completely understand if he does, but I do hope one day to have the opportunity to explain to him why he was placed for adoption and that I love him very much and always have. I don't expect anything from him, I only hope for forgiveness for the hurt my decisions may have caused him, and a chance to let him know how much I have always loved him and always will. There are always two sides to every story, please be mature enough and kind hearted enough to hear both.
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