[destefani]

I now how you are feeling i sometimes feel the same way but there is nothing we can do about it now. I found my birth mother
almost three years ago and at first i was realy angry and upset at her it toke awhile for me to forgive her for putting me up for adoption. I do not like adoption at all i think that a child should be raised by the parent he or she was born into.
But i have learned that living in the past only make's the heart ack
worse. I'm just greatful that i have the chance to know them now.
Rape , incest , court's these should be the only reason why a child should ever be placed for adoption. Some adoptee's think that by finding there birthparent's make's them complete but for me it only anserd the questioned that i wanted to know were did i come from what's my heritage's why was i given up and who do i look like. But as far as the question of who am i it does not ly with my birth-family it lies with in me. I am who i am i make me nobody else. I am my own person just because my birth mother gave me life and my adopted parents raised me . May have some trat's from both parent.s but that does not make me who i am. i make my own chose'ies life made me. WHO I AM.

Sorry for getting of the subject i do agree with you adoption does stink. Hope everything works out for you

GOOD LUCK