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If your daughter has any doubts about placing her baby for adoption, don't let her do it. She will regret it for the rest of her life. My bmom was sure, and she still says that she would do it all over again. The road has still been hell for her, because of a lack of support and counselling, but she believes that her decision was right for both her and me.
However, I have heard stories from oodles of bmoms who feel that they were forced to place their children because they were never given any other choices. If your daughter wants to raise this baby, but thinks she can't because of finances, or simply because she's so young, she should be given options that will help her to keep the baby. If you and your husband can't help her to raise the baby, isn't there some way of placing the baby in foster care, with as much visitation as your daughter wants, until she can raise her child on her own?
I am not against adoption for people that really want it, or really need it. I just would hate for your daughter to do what she thinks is "right", only to be haunted by her decision for the rest of her life. Try not to push her one way or the other. The mistake was hers, but the decision is also hers, and she does have the right to raise her child if she wants to.
I will be thinking about you and your family, and wishing you well through this very difficult time.
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