As a bmom to a 19 year old daughter I have been where your daughter is!!!! I was 17 (barely) at the time of her birth and still hold the memory of her precious beautiful face inside my heart!!! In the early 80's open adoptions were just beginning, but they were basically unheard of in my small town. I really cannot answer about how I would have done then, but now looking back I wish I would have had an open adoption, HANDS DOWN!!!!! Atleast some of the worry of how she was would have been a lot less traumatic!!! Please, as young as she is she is still this babies mother. Let her make her OWN decisions. However long she wants to spend with the baby LET HER.....She and her baby deserve time. My two regrets are NOT spending more time with my baby and not having an open adoption (even if only semi-open). After my bdaughter was born the hospital social worker seemed to RUSH our visit....allow her all the time she needs for HER well being!!! I truly wish you the best of luck!!! Many blessings and prayers headed your way!!!! Staci
