[vicrose]

I just had to post here..because even though I have not been directly exposed to the foster care system...there was a time about 11 years ago when I was going through a very messy divorce..and my ex-husband had called Social Services on me three separate times in a matter of 1 1/2 years..it got to the point that I would just invite the case workers in and we'd have a cup of coffee..I was on a first name basis with them...all because my ex-husband kept calling them and telling them that I was abusing my children..hitting them, not feeding them...any lie he could possibly make up..and you want to know why..because he figured that if I lost custody of my babies..that they would go into foster care, and he wouldn't have to pay child support. Thank God that I am no the kind of Mother who has ever thought of spanking..because I probably wouldn't have my babies if I was...my ex was hell bent on getting them taken away from me. My name stayed listed with they're offices for approximately 3 years...and the last caseworker said that she was going to flag my file..because the charges were so ridiculous!! But let's assume that they had believed my ex-husband...I wouldn't have my babies...and it probably would've taken a whole lot of money and court time to prove that all the allegations were false. I mean, I thank God that the caseworkers were doing they're jobs...but I see innocent people's kids taken away a lot..far more than should be. Oh, and by the way...when the case workers stopped paying attention to my ex's false allegations...he moved 1500 miles away, and rerely sees the kids he told them that he loved soooo much!!!! Hugs, Brenda