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I became pregnant at the end of my sophmore year in highschool. I have an open adoption with my son who is almost 2 yrs. old.
I can not imagine not holding my baby and spending the time I had with him while I was in the hospital. I believe spending that time helped me tremendously. I have memories of how much it hurt but I also have good memories that mean so much to me.
I have wonderful memories of my boyfriend (the birthfather) holding our son and telling him how much he loves him, how much he will always love him and how
much he wishes he could keep him. I have humerous memories
of my boyfriend changing our sons diaper. The first diaper he had
ever changed. I have memories of comforting my son when he cried. I have memories of me holding my baby and saying good bye to being his parent. He wont remember all that I said but I always will. I heard a birthmother say once you have to say hello before you say good bye. I think that is so true.
I invited the adoptive parents to visit in the hospital. Some birthmothers have the adotpive parents there for delivery. I chose not to. Some prefer not to have the adoptive parents visit at all at the hospital. For me it was very helpful to have them visit.
It reassured me about my decision when I saw the adoptive parents light up when they saw him for the first time and look at him with loving eyes. After I left the hospital I kept on reminding myself of seeing them all together so happy. I reminded myself of their love for our son.
I have a very open adoption with my son. We have had lots of visits. Each visit is such a blessing. He has wonderful parents who are very open and understanding.
I hope this is helpful. Best wishes -Ginny
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