My 15 year old daughter is pregnant. She is 7-1/2 months and just told me and her father. She wants to give the baby up for adoption. Things are happening so fast. We've rec'd paperwork from a local adoption agency with bios on 6 adoptive families. Now we're struggling with open adoption issues. Originally we wanted to protect my daughter and told her she should have no contact with the adoptive couple and to spend as little amount of time with her baby after the birth as possible. Our thoughts that this would make it easier on daughter and help to put "it all behind her". But she wants to see the baby, and hold him/her.

Now we're thinking we should say we want no contact with the adoption parents at the time of the birth - however, we want the option of contact in the future.

I would like advice from bmoms who were young (teenagers) when they had their babies and how they feel now about their adoption and the amount of contact they have had with the bchild and the adoptive family. Is it working or not?