First, be sure the therapist you have selected is a real expert.
1. Is the person a licensed mental health provider?
2. Is over 1/2 of the practice with adopted and foster children?
3. Has the person had substantial training in attachment related issues; post graduate, at a recognized attachment center?
4. Is the person a member of
Assoc for the Treatment and Training in the Attachment of Children ? or can they meet the standards for a Registered Clinician...they should at least meet those standards.
You may also want to have her evaluated by a developmental pediatrician for neurological issues related to prenatal exposure to alcohol/drugs...
You may also want an evaluation by an OT who is SIPT certified to assess for sensory-integration issues as those may be a factor here.
regards,