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I think you should speak (or write) to her very frankly and tell her that you interpreted her letter as hostile, that she is entitled to her opinions just as you are entitled to yours, but that you will not allow her to belittle you. If she has opinions concerning you not being a "real mother", then you do not wish to hear them, just as you would not subject her to a tirade about her not being a "real mother".
Tell her that you feel it is in your son's best interest that the two of you communicate civilly with one another, not work at cross-purposes. After all, you both love him.
Tell her that in the future, you would prefer that correspondence be polite, cordial, and confined to news and discussion of your son. If she has personal issues, she needs to seek qualified professional help, not use your correspondence as a venue to work through them. You are not a punching bag, nor a sounding board for her feelings about motherhood. If she wants to vent, maybe you should refer her to this forum, or one of the numerous other on-line support resources for birthmothers.
Best of luck to you, ~ Sharon
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