[cathy102]

That is a hard one..I just got back from FL and our son is 9 days old. Yes, that is true that the birthmom is the first mom but that doesn't mean that she is THE MOM..You are the one she chose to adopt her little boy. I have a 15 month old and I am her mom. I respect both of my children's bithmom's so much. Whn they chose me to parent, that means that I am the mom now..

Maybe she is just going through so much right now because of the Holidays? How old is your son? All you can do is keep sending pictures and letters every 2 months. I would still write what you want and send as many pictures, also. I don't think 1 or 2 pictures is enough..

Just try to put yourself in her position. We will NEVER understand what they went through to allow us to parent their child. Just try and be there for her. Your family can't give you advice because they will never understand adoption like we do..

I hope everything work out..Hugs to you and Happy Holidays..

Cathy