[Xmansmom]

I am fairly new to the boards, and would like to first take a minute to say hello and wish everyone a very Happy holiday season.

I am in need of some advice... I am a single aparent of the most beautiful little boy. He is 5 months old and is the light of my life. I have a semi open adoption with his birthmother. Everything was great up until about a month ago. We were sending letters and pictures back and forth 2 or 3 times a month. I feel very close to her, and always look forward to hearing from her. About a month ago, she started sending letters talking about how she was his (my son's) real mom, his first mom, about how she gave me the title of mom for now, but that she would always be his mother, ect. This really upset me. I talked it over with my family and social worker, and it was decided that the agency would discuss this with her and help her to establish boundaries. My family is not very supportive of me having a relationship with her. They feel like it doesn't help her to constantly hear about the baby and see pictures of him. They feel like she hasn't gotten through the greiving and acceptance of the situation, and to keep telling her of everything that he is doing is not helping. The agency asked that I send only one letter every few months and keep it not very in depth with only one or so pictures, for awhile. I felt horrible about this. This is the girl that made me a mom and without her, I would not have my precious son, how can I be that way to her? I have done as they have asked, and have not gotten a letter from her in over a month now. With the holidays here, I guess I am feeling even worse about the situation. Am I doing my son an injustice? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Merry Christmas!!!