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Originally posted by MelodyPeter
2) It just kinda looks a liiiiiiiiiitle bit better to let this grieving family know that you are ummmmm, "unavailable" BUT that you have someone speaking on your behalf, i.e., your attorney....
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Why does this look better? As far as hiring an attorney to speak for you....well, as a birthparent, it just sounds cold to me. Like you are protecting your interests instead of being concerned about the welfare of the child. Not that you won't need one, but the attorney as representitive is just too cold and sterile for me. This family is deeply grieving. Do you think that speaking through your lawyer is going to be consoling to them?
My advice is to treat them as friends. Whatt would you do for friends who have lost a child? What would you do if there was a baby that needed to be cared for? Maybe God is calling you to lovingly care for the baby until it's future is decided. Maybe you will be the one to raise her, maybe not. But giving a baby love seems to me to be the right choice here. Especially since she is just having her physical needs met.
Look at it this way. You are an adult. You have a lot of coping mechanisms a baby does not. And, in the words of Shakespeare, "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Ask yourself who really has the greater need.