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Hey Taryn -
My son came from an orphanage as well. He lived there 2 years. I was very concerned about attachment since he was very nearly 3 years old. On my pick up trip, I tried to lay in bed with him and pushed me away, very strongly I might add.
When we got home, it was very important to me that he know HIS room, HIS bed, HIS toys. So, as the books say, I slept on the floor in his room next to his bed. If he woke, I was there to give immediate comfort. After being home about 4 or 5 weeks, he would get up and crawl down to the floor to snuggle with me and sleep the rest of the night on the floor.
He came home in July, and I'm still on that floor. I moved to the living room couch (across from his room) for a couple nights, but he would come in at about 4:30 a.m. and take me by the hand to his room. Then he started getting up a couple times during the night (this never happened before) just to see it I was there.
Truth be told, I missed listening to him breathing. After Christmas, I'm going to be firm about sleeping on the couch. He can do morning snuggles with me there. Then I'll move into my room.
So, I say. We'll see how firm I am about sticking to my guns.
This actually has worked well. He will say its bedtime and climb into his bed, hugs, kisses, lights out and I can leave him to sleep on his own.
NAPTIME - another story altogether!
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