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Ah Mr louis, i was awaiting your reply. your assertion that adoptees are looking for somewhere to place blame is indeed an interesting theory. I am glad that you are a well adjusted adoptee, although your habit of pouncing on any post that may hint at a negative attitude towards adoption could be interpreted in a number of ways.

I am what is considered in western society a successful person. Highly educated, i own my own business and make large amounts of money. however I did not enjoy being an adoptee and it has brought much pain to me in my personal life. I have trouble forming relationships, especially with women and i feel isolated from people and society in general.

I do not blame my aparents or my bmom. they made choices in their lives within the scope of knowledge, maturity and position in the world they found themselves in, at the time. In other words they did the best they could.

Rather than search for blame, a fairly obtuse argument in my humble opinion, I have honestly appraised my life and sought answers to some of the emotional problems i have experienced.

It would appear from your line of thought that you believe that no adoptee is affected by being adopted. I think you might find that you are in a serious minority with that opinion. I don't believe that every adoptee is affected, but to negate the personal experiences of others in order to define your position on this topic, is, once again, in my humble opinion, unhealthy to say the least.

I hope your relationship with your bdad continues to go well.