Hi Andrea
We went through the state and are interested in older special needs adoption. It has been a long wait. It has been over 10 months since our homestudy was approved and after not getting a match or hearing anything through Rhode Island since then, we also registered with Massachusetts, found a child that we are interested in and had our homestudy sent to her social worker. I thought waiting for any call was tough, but waiting for a call with a particular child in mind is even more anxiety-producing. We keep telling ourselves that if we are not the chosen parents for this child, it is only because someone else lives closer to her siblings or has more experience with special needs adoption. We try to remember that her social workers are trying to do what is best for her, but it is hard to imagine how we will feel if we are not selected as a good match for her. We are excited and hopeful, but also preparing to not take a rejection personally.
If you need to let off some waiting steam, feel free to e-mail me.
Wendy
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