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gaylene,
My thought and preyers are with you. I assure you your birth mom does not hate you she is just lashing out at you, why I am not sure. I am really confused how she got your number and why she would call you and tell you such devesting information. I do also believe in honesty but I also believe in doing what is in a childs best interest. Telling you on the phone the first time you spoke to her is not the way to do it. You have not done anything wrong and you have nothing to feel bad about. I hope you have a very special relationship with your adoptive parents and they are there to help you in this very difficult time. I agree that it would be very beneficial for you to get some outside therapy form someone who is knowledgeable in adoption matters like this. I am sure there are support groups that you could go to as well. It saddens me though that any mother could intentionally hurt any child by saying something like that to them, and to make matters worse their own child.

Shoshanna, What you said was absolutely wonderful. I couldn't have said it better.

Remember you are never alone God will always be there with you. Also you have everyone here and we care.