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17 years ago I was in your shoes
I was 24 yrs, still in college, had no support from family. In fact, it seems as though everyone thought adoption was the logical thing to do. Now 17 years later, I still question "why" everyone said that. All I can tell you is that there has not been one day in my life that I have not missed my little girl. It is an open adoption so I am grateful to see how beautiful she has grown. It makes me proud- but it never lessens the pain. Life has gone on.. and I have two children now. Again, I feel very blessed but now I understand what it takes to raise a child and I now have to live with the realization that I COULD have successfully raised her on my own. I shouldn't have listen to others. I have forgiven myself and accept that I made the best decision with the facts I knew at the time.
So what I am trying to say is... listen to yourself, you know yourself, don't be persuaded by others opinions because you are the one who will have to live with that decision for the rest of your life.
Yes it's true that it is hard to raise a child on your own-I find it hard and I am married, but in my wiser years I have come to know that no matter what happens.... pregnancy, illness, $$, death of loved ones.... that life is hard!
So live your life with a heart full of love and don't let anyone stop you.
Best of luck. You will be in my prayers
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