[dumbfounded1]

Be thankful to some extent that you can walk away. My birthmom won't leave me alone! My advice would be to stop expecting normalcy or rational behavior from her, because it sounds like she is incapable of seeing you as a unique individual, separate from her past and the guilt she apparently bears. In terms of helping her, how can you? She's an adult and must help herself on her own accord.

If your reunion/relationship is anything like mine, you'll be gaining a lesson in emotional strength and patience, regardless of if you asked for one.

I'd also like to thank you for your post, I feel a small bit better now after being reminded that it could always be worse.