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Originally Posted by kimbo2700
Hi - We have a very similar situation. We have some real concerns in explaining this. When our daughter was born our birthmother had a job, insurance, and a partner. Then she becomes pregnant a year and a half later, and is less prepared than she was with our daughter. Single with no job. How on earth are we suppose to explain that situation to our daughter, when we can't figure it out ourselves. It breaks my heart to even anticpiate having this conversation with her.
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I think it is important to note two things. One, placing a child is
notjust about circumstances. You cannot separate the mind and the heart. Your daughter's birthmother most likely could not face the pain that a second placement would bring. The loss is too tremendous.
I do not think it is up to the adoptive parents to explain what is in the birthmom's heart. It is up to the birthmom.