I haven't been in your situation, but can understand that you might be concerned. I would look at it a different way, though. What if you continue to be open to any race, and a situation presents itself to you that is perfect for your family? There are others on this board who have one child who is of color, in a CC family. You seem to have done the legwork, and to have been prepared, to be a TRA family. You might also have situations where the emom is CC and not certain of the baby's race/ethnicity (that has happened a few times with our agency). Closing yourselves to the possibility of matching with her might shut the door to a potentially good situation.
Just some random thoughts. I hope some people who have BTDT can assist. Best of luck
