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No input on what is the right thing to do but I keep coming back to this post so please consider just my thoughts...
I have two sets of parents - both are equal in my heart yet they have completely different roles. One set I know well, the other I have never met. Love is limitless and loving one set does not, will not, dimish or negate the love for the other. Love does not work that way, love is one of the greatest gifts given or recieved and no preconceptions or conditions can be placed on love. If you do, you lose the love most precious to you.
Please do not take away the chance of the child to make their own decisions, in their own time, on how they feel about having access to or knowing their biological roots which includes siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles.
And finally, the child does not share your family medical history, he/she has a different set of genes and the chances of getting different hereditary diseases that often do not appear until middle age or beyond. Family medical history is never static and cannot simply be obtained once. Please do not deny the child you love the right to that information, it could save their life one day.
Kind regards,
Dickons
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