I have finally, after a year and half of struggling through the process, been matched with a beautiful pair of sisters ages 9 & 11.
We have met and next Friday, I have the first of two supervised visits. The way my agency works, they require two supervised visits. If all goes well, they proceed with the adoption order placement paperwork, and I proceed with 5 day visits and the 5 weekend visits. The day visits are done in their local area and the weekend visits at my home.
I am very excited and the girls appear to be as well. They, being older, have had a relationship with their bio mom. They call their foster mom by her first name. They have been with her a year.
On Friday, I will bring a photo album for each of them and take them out to eat. The following Tuesday I will have my last supervised visit and the the Friday before Labor Day and the days following through Labor Day, I will be in a hotel and just visit them for each day all day.
This will complete my day visits and we can proceed, if they are ready, to weekend visits at their new home.
I am not sure what to ask them to call me or even say to them who I am. I am very nervous about this. I want to be respectful of the fact that they have a "mom," but I want them to be able to someday, sooner rather than later, call me "mom."
Will it be offensive to them if I introduce them to other people as my daughters?
Thanks for your help.
Mom in waiting of 2 beautiful girls
