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Congratulations on your lovely family!
I will be very blunt here-it is not my intention to offend anyone-
For visits, please consider only how the children will feel. If biomom is uncomfortable she can leave.
My suggestion is somewhere the children can do something, like a park. They can come back and forth to you from the playground, and interact with biomom if THEY want to--she can observe them and enjoy watching them.
I'd stay away from fast food restaurants as they are a bit too confined-and video game places are too noisy.
I imagine the visit will be mostly talking between you and biomom, while she watches the girls.
I also suggest you bring biomom some pics, and be sure to take pics that day, but don't insist your daughters pose with biomom.
If biomom is inappropriate, like telling your daughters to call her mom, please feel free to leave.
This first visit will set expectations for the future. It's easier to lighten up than be more restrictive the next time.
I wish you the best, but be prepared to do what you think is best for your children.
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