Sibling Relations
Hi,
We adopted 2 boys out of foster care that had been adopted internationally... what a mess! Living on the streets in east Europe then abused in the us moved to foster and now to us (at last a good thing). The younger has LOW self esteem ad the older is abusive and controlling... This is want happened!
What happened is that older excludes the younder and steals from him, then makes the younger out to be bad to divert attention from himself... Typical Brother!
In this case he ailed himself with a group and in the end the only person NOT in the group was his brother -the younger.
All the younger wants is to be his Bro... All older wants is control over everything!
We have been fighting this same pattern for the past 5 years! last year it was so bad that we moved the younger (NOW THE SCAPE-GOAT AT SCHOOL) to another school... He did great and was making friends.. Then the school closed doe the economic times!
Well summer is almost over and they will be going to another school together (they are 11 and 12).... Is this kind of action and fighting for power normal... And I am being gentile in my description! The older... Brakes the younger's things, shames him, steals his stuff (and ours), teams u against him, is disrespectful, and extremely beguiling and attractive... He can twist the world around his finger!
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