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I think we jut get too wrapped up in labels nowadays. Being from the closed era of "get on with your life, get over it", I never really researched anything on adoption after I relinquished my son so I was unaware of all these labels. After our reunion, i quickly schooled myself and found the term "birthmother". To me, in my mind, I was just always his mother, but I do find that birthmother is the term we both use to explain exactly who I am to him because he refers to both his adoptive mother and me as "mom" which can get confusing to outsiders. I agree with crick, if someone has a preference, it's nice to know and you can adjust yourself accordingly. But frankly we ALL need to get over the labels and remember that those labels don't define us, we are all just people in the triad trying to live our lives. We are all here to seek some understanding, to find some support, and that is what really matters.
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