[JustPeachy]

I am not offended by it, per se, but I, too, dislike labels and don't feel ANY of the terms fit. I use/have used birth mom or bmom to describe myself and to reference others, probably because that is the term most often used to describe us. I don't think of it in terms such as "breeder" or "incubator." But in terms of how I truly feel, I've always thought of both myself and my son's mom as his mom, but that can get confusing. None of the other words are accurate or feel right to me as far as I'm concerned. Lately, I try to steer away from ANY qualifiers to my motherhood, excpet when clarification is needed. It can get cumbersome to spell it all out, but I am a mother who placed a child for adoption. A mother who did not raise her son. But I'm still a mother, and I get tired, sometimes, of having to deny that reality or qualify it with a label.