I never know anymore what the proper names for everyone in the triad is... I just came across this article that indicates birthmother = breeder or incubator.
Here's the link...
The Baby Scoop Era ™ Research Initiative
What are the proper terms? Certainly don't want to offend anyone with labels.
I do think 'adoptee' has been my label my entire life -- still, even though I'm 44. Sometimes - to me - adoptee means someone who was given away or disposed of. I know that's not even close to everyone's interpretation. And I don't mind being called an 'adoptee' for clarification purposes. I was just wondering what was thought of the term 'birthmother'.