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Rylee-Wow, can I relate to your post. I do know, without a doubt, that my son is really my son but I just had this exact conversation with my husband the other day. Adoption affects everyone differently, and my son acts just like your bdaughter-indifferent to me. I have come to realize that the relationship we have is one of him using me and coming to me when his life is in turmoil. Otherwise, when things are good, he completely ignores me and literally acts like I don't exist. I have said, here on other posts, that my other 2 children would never treat me like he does. I would also never accept them treating me like he does. Also, I do not believe he loves me unconditionally, I believe he puts all sorts of conditions on his love for me. He sets me up for failure and I allow it-out of guilt? out of self-loathing? I'm not sure...I do find it interesting that all I have thought of was him loving ME unconditionally when I have put some conditions on loving him-mainly telling him that if he got back together with his wife I would NEVER talk to her ever. Well they are now back together and he has cut me off 100%. I am going to try to be a better person and try to love him unconditionally, and hopefully he will contact me again someday..
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