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Rylee -- I had a very interesting conversation with a birthmother over the last few days. She had picked up something I said on another website.
She asked me to love my birthmother unconditionally. It took me aback because I never considered that. My bmom has gone on NY news, in the Philadelphia papers, her husband has testified in front of the NJ Senate and wrote horrible things about me in a public newspaper -- about how I was a predator and my father was a rapist. She got a lawyer to go after me. -- and, I've never met the woman.
The birthmother said to 'love her anyway'. It's been a day since I've had this conversation and my brain is still trying to process it. Loving my bmom unconditionally after everything she has put me through and to love her anyway...
I think it's easier to love an enemy. But no one has told me to love my bmom unconditionally. I've never met her and our only conversation was thru a lawyer. She has caused me public pain is still fighting the fight that I not access my birth certificate, even though I know all my info already.
But, I think I'm going to try to love her unconditionally. I don't know if I'm up to it, but I'm going to try. Wanna try loving your bdaughter unconditionally? It's certainly not easy, but this bmom told me it was worth a try. -- Elaine
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