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Originally Posted by Jason18
First, hi everyone, my name is Jason and Im trying desperately to make the best decision for my daughter-to-be. We are expecting to have the baby around the end of august, beginning of september (drs say one thing, my girlfriends body says another) and up until recently thought that adoption was very much a good (not easy) choice. As much as my girlfriend and I have tried to distant ourselves from the kicking little critter in her belly, we are both finding ourselves growing fond of her, and recently it occurred to me that I love her (the baby). Im trying to keep this as short as possible, theres just so much..... We decided to go with an open adoption, giving the baby to her aunt and uncle. However, now that the lawyers involved (and Ive read some bad things about him) and the adoptive parents arent open to what we'd like (we dont want the baby to know we're the birthparents, but want to be in her life- and want to be godparents), we arent so sure this is the best bet. With the adoptive parents, shed be in a more financially stable environment, while my girlfriend and I still have a bit of school left. Also, before I give you nice folk a respite, my side of the family instead of being supportive to at least my feelings, seem to be very concerned with how theyre lives will be effected and how they are in mourning for their loss. Are they off base for lambasting me with this, or am I being insensitive for being more concerned with whats best for the baby and my girlfriend?
Thank you
Jason
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It is your child if you want to keep the baby do it, you can figure out a way.
Adoptive parents do not have to keep you in their lives, they will if they feel comfortable with an open adoption.
Many do and do it well.
Legally there is no way to enforce an open adoption even with it being legal.
If you are not comfortable with that lawyer, GET OUT NOW. Go to an agency quickly.
I married at 17, I don't recommend it, but it can work.